Can I get personal for a minute? I don’t like posting on social media. I really don’t. My life and what I do with it does not belong on the Internet for anyone else to see. There was a time I considered even deleting all my social media, because I hardly even post or look through it. Obviously, this blog is a form of social media, but to me it is different. Honestly, the only reason I keep it around is to post for my blog and have another way for people to reach me.
I understand that social media is taking over everyone’s life. Some people feel that they need to post every little thing for the world to see. That is not me nor my lifestyle. I would rather live life, not just document it.
Don’t get me wrong: I love taking pictures and looking back on memories. I mean, I scrapbooked all four years of high school. There was plenty to document, and I did so frequently. But people were not involved in seeing those pictures until I was ready for them to do so.
Another reason I don’t particularly care for posting on social media is I like the air of mystery that occurs in my life. I’ve had people ask me on my relationship status (still the same I promise) among other things. I like that people do not know what happens in my life without my permission (a.k.a. very little).
Once you start posting frequently on social media, it becomes a competition. This competition is only with yourself. You want to always be outdoing yourself, going for more likes, more follows. I know this because I was this way even about my blog. I would post it, and then the next day or so, I would go check to see how many people had viewed it. It didn’t take me too long to realize that that was only draining myself. With expecting a certain number of views, I would be either disappointed or elated depending on the number. So what did I do? I stopped looking at the stats. Occasionally, I’ll still check them, but it’s not worth it to me anymore. I don’t care. I’m happy just posting my blog. It makes no difference if no people read it or 100 people read it.
However, I’m all for letting people know about the milestones in my life (change of look, engagement [if/when it happens], wedding, etc.); but the minute details of my life are not worth shouting to the world about. It’s not me. It’s fine for anyone else, but it’s not my lifestyle.
I mentioned earlier that I think my blog is different than other social media. To me, it’s like a public journal. I write my thoughts, memories, things that are important to me. It doesn’t matter if it’s important to anyone else. I don’t want to know how many views a blog post gets. I don’t need to compete with myself. My blog is a physical manifestation of what goes on in my head.
I encourage people to read what I write, but it’s never required. The biggest reason I even post about it is to give anyone the opportunity to read it. However, I have no way of knowing if anyone reads it or not (unless I look at the stats or someone tells me they read it), and that’s the way I want it to be. I’d rather encourage people silently and make a difference in one person’s life than be overly loud and have no one really pay attention to me. I like what I write about. My blog is publicly personal. It allows others a glimpse in my life, but there’s no one standing over my shoulder telling me what I should write about. That’s why I usually don’t tell what my blog post is about. I want you to discover it for yourself. Because at the end of the day, it is never about what you think of what I say. It’s entirely about how I feel with what I’ve done. I’m proud of the life I live, and what I choose to document in my blog.