I don’t know about you, but I am not a patient person. I like things to be done pretty much instantly. But lately, I have been working on trying to be more patient and wait.
I was working out with a friend on Friday, and she made a comment that stuck with me. She basically said something along the lines of, “When I workout, I want to see progress right away, and I get discouraged when I don’t. So then I don’t really stick with it.” I can really relate to that. When I first started this blog, I had an idea for doing my fitness journey once I got to my goal. Well, that post hasn’t been written yet because I haven’t actually reached my main goal.
It has taken a lot of work and time to see how much progress I have made, even though I’m not where I want to be. I have gone from hating my body, to tolerating, to accepting, to finally being proud of where I am and loving my body. Let me tell you, it was a process. Progress isn’t linear. There are still days when I don’t feel proud of myself.
I use the example of physical health, but this can really apply to almost anything. If you want to make progress, it’s going to take time. This is a lesson I am still learning. I still want the results to be instant. I have to continually remind myself not to get frustrated just because things take time. Getting over a heartbreak takes time. Finding a new job takes time. Overcoming setbacks takes time.
Very rarely are results actually instant. Again, this is something I’m still working on. I need to learn patience because I am not very good at practicing it. Things take time.
I write this for me as much as you: don’t be so hard on yourself. You aren’t going to have a 6-pack from one workout. You won’t feel better after just one therapy session. Healing and progress both take time, as does most everything else. Very rarely are there things that actually provide instant results.
Here’s another example I can give. I have had acne since puberty. Very rarely does it cover my whole face. I know it’s not as bad as some other people’s, but it still bugs me. I want it gone pretty much immediately. But, I have developed a pretty consistent skincare routine, and I have seen progress.
Life takes time. I am a year out from my degree. My first semester of college, I had next to no idea of what it meant to actually be a teacher. This last semester was the first time that I planned my own lessons, and I did a lot of them. That is such a crucial aspect of being a teacher, and I hadn’t done it before this past spring. I was not even close to being a teacher after my first semester. I still have a year to go before I graduate and can be licensed. There are still things I want to learn and things I need to do before I will feel prepared to teach on my own.
I don’t pretend to know where you are in life. I only know where I am. I always say that the only story I am qualified to tell is my own. This is something that has been repeating itself to me and reminding me. I get impatient and I want things to be done instantly and perfectly. But life takes time. Very rarely are there instant results, and very rarely are they the results wanted. Let life take time, and don’t be so hard on yourself just because it does.